How do Unwanted or Abusive BoyChildhood Experiences affect your future Marital Relationship.
As a male preparing for marriage commitment, it is very important to ensure you handle or heal your past hurts, tumors or wounds as a #BoyChild because they will come back to affect you in all your relationship-building in this life.
This is mainly because you won’t be able to fully experience
an open and enjoyable intimacy with your future wife developing something Dr. Douglas Weiss
calls 'Intimacy Anorexia". This….. “is a relationship disorder that is marked by a lack of intimacy in a relationship.
It occurs when someone in a relationship actively withholds emotional,
spiritual, and sexual intimacy from their spouse or partner. This lack of
intimacy harms the marriage, damages the relationship causes pain and
loneliness, and impacts the spouse or partner significantly.”
He further explains that one of its major
causes is ..” Sexual Trauma: Sexual trauma is
one of the leading causes of intimacy anorexia. It is also a related factor in
many addictions and mental disorders. This is because sexual trauma victims are
sexually shamed and damaged which leads them to use coping mechanisms like
controlling intimate behavior and interactions.”
Where, when, and by whom is child sexual abuse
of males likely to occur?
“While there are no typical circumstances that
boys find themselves in when abused; compared to girls, boys are more likely to
be:
·
Abused by a stranger.
·
Subjected to extrafamilial abuse.
·
Abused around witnesses.
·
Abused by a female or male and female together.
·
Abused by clergy. “
Remember your wife will come with also her own share of wounds and passed hurts that she might project
on you subconsciously and expect you to heal. Best to tackle and heal yours as a #husband to be prior to this #lifetime #commitment.
#RealMenTalk
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