How do Unwanted or Abusive BoyChildhood Experiences affect your future Marital Relationship.

As a male preparing for marriage commitment, it is very important to ensure you handle or heal your past hurts, tumors or wounds as a #BoyChild because they will come back to affect you in all your relationship-building in this life. 

This is mainly because you won’t be able to fully experience an open and enjoyable intimacy with your future wife developing something Dr. Douglas Weiss calls 'Intimacy Anorexia". This….. “is a relationship disorder that is marked by a lack of intimacy in a relationship. It occurs when someone in a relationship actively withholds emotional, spiritual, and sexual intimacy from their spouse or partner. This lack of intimacy harms the marriage, damages the relationship causes pain and loneliness, and impacts the spouse or partner significantly.”

He further explains that one of its major causes is ..” Sexual Trauma: Sexual trauma is one of the leading causes of intimacy anorexia. It is also a related factor in many addictions and mental disorders. This is because sexual trauma victims are sexually shamed and damaged which leads them to use coping mechanisms like controlling intimate behavior and interactions.”

Where, when, and by whom is child sexual abuse of males likely to occur?

“While there are no typical circumstances that boys find themselves in when abused; compared to girls, boys are more likely to be:

·        Abused outside the home.

·        Abused by a stranger.

·        Subjected to extrafamilial abuse.

·        Abused around witnesses.

·        Abused by a female or male and female together.

·        Abused by clergy. “

 

So it’s very important to face all this past hurt and get deep soul healing before your very special wedding day in order to reduce the work you have to put into your marriage to work.

 Remember your wife will come with also her own share of wounds and passed hurts that she might project on you subconsciously and expect you to heal. Best to tackle and heal yours as a #husband to be prior to this #lifetime #commitment.  

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