Thoughts From a Man's Soul!!

I personally can’t begin to comprehend how these days   I   detest anyone asking me this question as we all carelessly,   unknowingly   use this phrase every day, every second of the day around each other. Because if truly   I   were to tell them how   I really am !   They   will   not   be able to handle it or   may   just run off…………  Let me try breaking it down for you, yes you keep asking …HOW ARE YOU? Life happens, you find yourself almost 40 years old, jobless, businessless, and with no steady income of your own, and yet you have a young dream-filled wife and child to look after, and   an   elderly mother who always looks up to you to bail them out   each time they need some financial help   or   the time they can't easily reach their children abroad. What the hell is going on?   How did I get here? I had a promising job, bought a nice car, met a lovely girl and marrie...

How is your strategy for the new week asked my friend yesterday? ……… hmm for a moment I stopped to think about it and asked myself whether I should be honest with this friend and how he even knew to ask this question as he usually never asked. Oh well, I proceeded to be honest and I quote…..’This week I am blocking and deleting all my friends that are not playing as building blocks in my life, especially in the direction I want to be Then he laughed and proceeded to say Nice!!! Which I interpreted as it was a good idea. I further informed him…….that I needed to review my inner circle…… those 5 people closest to me and how their lives looked at the moment . Are they where  I am or want to be? Are they more about feeding on me than I am feeding on them? As Bishop T.D.Jakes once said …. That if you’re the brightest in your inner circle or if your friends feed/benefit from you more always than you benefit from them….. then you need to change your circle immediately. You should...

Hmmmmmmmmmm.... not sure how to start this but the past few days have been a roller coast ride on these two words "Best Friends" after my new bride “J” posed that question.... who are your best friends.? I could not believe that I couldn't answer that question easily yet before our marriage, I thought I had an over ‘flowing cup” when it comes to best friends or close friends. I was shocked too  when it came to really thinking about it this time round. I realized that  the people I called my best friends, I didn't really see them score the 100% best friend mark yet I still questioned myself if my standards for a best friend are too high or I expect too much from a people I could  truly call  my best friends. After almost 30 something years on this planet earth, I thought I “had this in the bucket” already. Oh boy!! Oh boy!! Was I wrong or wrong!!? I learnt the hard way that as ...